YES anyone other than you would have to talk to him to make him understand. If he doesn't understand it's not relevant actually because pain is pain and support is support. There are many things I don't understand that my husband goes through and visa versa but we support regardless. We shouldn't have to prove ourselves to be supported

I hate to sound negative, but after 3 surgeries and 8 years of marriage, he still doesn't get it.

Until you begin your ordeal surgery after surgery its then when they if ever really have true empathy.

Take Care love .
you have to vent stress & hurt or you will get yourself even sicker. Sure hope its not endo but if so prayers for beginning stages of this nightmare.
Hun I have a 29yr old son who couldnt be that creul. I'm sorry i knw i prolly shouldnt say this but ... Personally i'd put my foot up his ass & if he leaves Sat i would lean towards my independance.
Some pain we cant just pretend it didnt happen.
Peace and love
Prayer goes a long way .
I will say a prayer for you.
Stay strong & great luck in your surgery❤
It cost zero cents to be a decent human being....
Endo Sister luv xXx

They will never get it. Its a shame he cant b there for your surgery. I have found the best way to get them to listen is to have the dr talk to them after surgery and really lay it out for them. That has helped me before. But bottomline, with an invisible disease they dont get it

There's nothing you can do to make him understand. Some people can't see the person they love in pain.