My in-laws are pushy about my husband and I having children, and they do not know about my diagnosis yet. I haven't told them because of comments they've made in the past about my worth being tied to my ability to have children. I am having surgery in less than a month, and my husband wants to tell his parents that I am having this operation. I do not want to tell them because they will use the knowledge as a weapon to demean me further. Any advice?
I'm so sorry you have to deal with anyone like this in your life. It should go without saying, but I'll say it anyway - you are an important person worthy of love and happiness and your value is not equal to or dependent on your ability or willingness to have children. What i wish your husband would do, is work on helping them understand this and drawing lines with his parents. If they are incapable of realizing this, then i don't think they have earned trust for any information regarding your personal health or fertility.
So tough when you’ve got in-laws like that. I definitely think it’s your decision on whether or not they should know and I hope your husband can respect that, as well as stand up to his parents if they’re being disrespectful towards you.
Now a days, people assume a woman is supposed to grow to be a 'parent' and have a career and whatnot. New outlook! That's not the case with everyone. We need to teach the WORLD about our illness in a way that reaches ears effectively and promptly. Your life is your lane! You choose what's reasonable to your body and soul.💪🏾
Hi, Squirrelgirl, I completely agree with Kachoo... you have a choice to inform people if you want to or not. You are Worthy or Love and Respect. All of the best for the operation.💗
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