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How Do You Tell Family Members You Have Endometriosis?

How Do You Tell Family Members You Have Endometriosis?

My in-laws are pushy about my husband and I having children, and they do not know about my diagnosis yet. I haven't told them because of comments they've made in the past about my worth being tied to my ability to have children. I am having surgery in less than a month, and my husband wants to tell his parents that I am having this operation. I do not want to tell them because they will use the knowledge as a weapon to demean me further. Any advice?

A MyEndometriosisTeam Member said:

I'm so sorry you have to deal with anyone like this in your life. It should go without saying, but I'll say it anyway - you are an important person worthy of love and happiness and your value is not equal to or dependent on your ability or willingness to have children. What i wish your husband would do, is work on helping them understand this and drawing lines with his parents. If they are incapable of realizing this, then i don't think they have earned trust for any information regarding your personal health or fertility.

edited, originally posted 15 days ago
A MyEndometriosisTeam Member said:

So tough when you’ve got in-laws like that. I definitely think it’s your decision on whether or not they should know and I hope your husband can respect that, as well as stand up to his parents if they’re being disrespectful towards you.

posted 14 days ago
A MyEndometriosisTeam Member said:

Now a days, people assume a woman is supposed to grow to be a 'parent' and have a career and whatnot. New outlook! That's not the case with everyone. We need to teach the WORLD about our illness in a way that reaches ears effectively and promptly. Your life is your lane! You choose what's reasonable to your body and soul.💪🏾

posted 11 days ago
A MyEndometriosisTeam Member said:

Hi, Squirrelgirl, I completely agree with Kachoo... you have a choice to inform people if you want to or not. You are Worthy or Love and Respect. All of the best for the operation.💗

posted 15 days ago
A MyEndometriosisTeam Member said:

Just ignore it. My friends mother in law used to do that to me because of mental illness. You can't help that you have it.

posted 15 days ago
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