Hi!
I'm so sorry you're both having pain with sex, I've been battling this for longer than I should have and can say a few things have helped. I'm starting to see progress and positive change.
- Absolutely pelvic floor physiotherapy is a big help, make sure you feel comfortable with your therapist and it will honestly support a great deal
- Chronic pain, especially with sex can create a lack of interest, that's absolutely a normal reaction to the pain you've been experiencing. It's so hard to go through the lack of arousal, so I started seeing a counsellor for these aspects. Something I highly recommend.
- I've also been pairing these with yoga and meditation practices, poses that stretch the pelvic floor
- Meditation helps with the anxiety and has been found to help with the sexual arousal and pain pieces
I have some books and sites I can recommend if you're interested.

Right there with you! I start pt on the 2nd you are far from alone!

Hey I can say I 100% feel you! Anytime I have been sexually intimate it can hurt badly, I'm now realizing it's the endometriosis.

I know the anti depressant squashes sexual desire, on top of it being painful will not make itt enjoyable or desired.

I also was recommended to a pelvic floor therapist, so I'm hoping for a good result!

Don't feel alone, Endo causes a lot of pain with intercourse!

I also have had issues with libido and painful sex. I honestly just haven’t pushed myself or my body to do things I wasn’t ready to do, and tried to lower my stress levels because that also made it worse. I’m starting to feel better now after about 3-4 months of not tolerating anything, even hugs a lot of the time. I think for me the pain was just so intense that any touch was hypersensitive and overstimulating for my body. I know some people have less pain after seeing a pelvic floor therapist. But try to not stress about it!

I’d be interested to know which books/site you found particularly helpful, sheelahyoga. I’ve been struggling with this same issue for years. It’s so emotionally overwhelming to confront, so I just end up avoiding the issue and it gets pushed to the back burner.