I just feel like they don't validate how I feel, and blame my hormones, it's hurtful and not considerate to me, it made me blow up and then they make those comments instead of focusing on the real issue. They think I always make things up, and can never believe me, which is why I go to therapy because I have been such a people pleaser from my childhood, I always keep going back and still put my parents before me even though they make me feel very upset and hurt me often with those comments.
Following SarahHamilton I would ask why they make those comments. I would also collect information about endometriosis like what it is the possibile theories on why it occurs the pain level that comes with it collect as much information as possible. Sometimes people judge and make comments based off of misuse of information they have been told or read. Maybe giving them a better understanding of it can help them understand. I am sorry you have to go through that with your parents.
Ask them what’s their reason for responding to you that way—- must be the hormones! ugh so sorry, that is so invalidating. It is never okay to make someone feel like there feelings aren’t valid, and just like Arielle said, no one knows what you’re dealing with except for you. Keeping taking care of yourself and know that you don’t need to prove anything to those who don’t want to take the time to understand what you’re struggling with, even if they are unfortunately your family. I hope you have others in your close circle who can support you emotionally and not shame you for having feelings and emotions and being a human with a chronic disease 💛 glad you have a therapist and I hope you find the support you need!
That's a hard thing to share. When the time is right for you, you will know and have the confidence to do what you need to do for you.
In the mean time, I want you to know, YOU matter. Your feeling are real, and it's ok to feel what ever way you feel when ever you feel it. Some people wont agree or understand, and unless they're in a similar situation they may never know.
The people pleaser in you will fight me on this, It did for me, You dont need their validation.
If you take 1 thing away from this, let it be: You are fighting a battle only you can feel. You are strong, you are fierce, and its OK to feel whatever it is you feel. You got this
🎗️#endowarrior