They don’t have FMLA forms for endometriosis also, when my OBGYN asked. The HR of the store and manager said I can only request it for along leave of absence. So yes she is aware of my endometriosis. I have not yet contacted the corporate HR yet.

Contact HR; hopefully they're a compassionate person in the know. Unfortunately I can relate to your situation so, No, you're not alone💖 (the reason for this platform.)

I have been with the same company for 6 years (this is my 7th season at a native plant nursery where I'm the last original hire still working onsite) & was skipped over for promo earlier this year; a new hire w/no experience got the Sales Coordinator position.

I'm not a morning person by nature & I have a rare bowel condition that complicates movement; combined with bowel Endo & a massive adhesion between my uterus & colon, my daily constitutional is often troublesome & needs to happen at home. In case you don't know, your body eliminates extra estrogen via 💩. I'm regularly late because BM conflicts with report time (yes, there have been attempts to push start time back) & even though my mgr knows I have a chronic illness, she'd still guilt me in saying that my tardiness isn't fair to my coworkers.

I think any Endo patient would agree that the subject of fairness is moot; Adapt & function however you can. I got a letter from my gyno & coupled it with my full colonoscopy report as documentation of medical necessity. I still have the same report time which is now a window & I check in if I'll be later than usual. Finally!!! some flexibility.

Because I got passed over & lost any potential income increase, I started looking for a new job; I love what I do but the ratio of $ to labor + bs tolerance is low. I went looking for a PT w/higher pay that I could supplement w/fewer hours at the nursery & was offered an amazing FT dept lead position I had to decline due to this stupid illness. Last night I worked a 9+ hr banquet gig & will be doing very little on my day off to recover.

In case you think your mgr is a monster, I had the displeasure of working under an especially insensitive cunt (who had a hysterectomy!) years ago before I was diagnosed. It was day 2 of my despicable dysmenorrhea & I had bled through everything (mega tampon+jumbo pad+ undies.) I discretely approached her to say that I needed to go home at lunch to change & would love it if I didn't have to come back for the second half (we were very slow.) In a non discreet super catty mean girls tone starting with a tongue tsk, "is it THAT bad?" (several people looked at me.) I told her I wouldn't be asking to stay home if it weren't & that I could come back but that I'd probably spend the bulk of the afternoon in the bathroom; if you wanna pay me to bleed out, it's your call-- just know I won't be very productive. I stayed home

Some people don't get it or even try to begin to understand which is why you ALWAYS have to advocate for yourself🫶